Use these 7 tips to stop feeling insecure about your relationship. Insecurity drives people to become too 'clingy' or needy and this creates problems. . I find it very hard to trust that my boyfriend is happy being with me even when he's given. Some people let their insecurities and trust issues manifest into cheating; others do it by refusing happiness. It's a sign you have trust issues if. Learn how you can get over any trust issues in your relationship using these steps. And the more insecure you feel, the more you'd doubt your lover.